Meeting you was fate, getting to know you was a choice, but falling in love with you was something that my heart decided upon on its own.
And it wouldn’t have been possible had we not gotten lost in the right direction: at the same place, at the same time, unaware of how life would play a role in bringing us together.
You were lost, and so was I. You were lost in a place that was new to you, a place that for quite some time, you would have wanted to be in, a place that you never thought would open its doors to you and welcome you in.
I was lost too, lost for a number of reasons: lost in a path that I was not happy in, lost in a house that no longer felt like a home, lost because I knew that something was missing. I was not living the life I wanted back then.
And then the hand of fate started stirring the pot and my quiet wishes of having a much better, and more content life started to create ripples of change in an increasing number of aspects of my life: work, self-growth, and the state of my heart.
In the middle of it all, I met you.
In the storm that defined my life last year, you were the calm center that I was the most grateful for.
You were like an oasis in the desert, a glimmer of hope of what life would bring once the storm has passed.
I knew back then that I was lost, but had I known that life was pushing me away from the old, towards a much better life that was leading towards the path that I long wanted to be in, I would have not resisted it at all.
Eventually, little by little I listened to life, and openly observed the changes that were happening before me: it was then that I slowly understood that these were responses to my simple wish back then to be happy, to live a life that was reflective of who I truly wanted to be, and sharing it with someone who I was proud to be next to, someone who I clearly see myself growing with as a better, more successful and more fulfilled individual overall.
It was then that I remembered my mother’s story of how life sometimes prunes you like a bonsai. She said that even if you resist it, you will find that certain aspects of your life need to be pruned and removed completely in order to make way for better growth, and in order to shape your existence into how you have always envisioned it.
Maria Shriver, in her blog post sums this up quite well:
“Many times, we might be aware that we need to make a change of some sort, but sometimes the pain of the ending, or stepping into the unknown, makes staying where we are defensible in our own minds.
The biggest truth in some seasons of life is often this: today may be the enemy of your tomorrow. Many times we are invested in activities, strategies, relationships and alliances that may not even be hellish, but are keeping us from where we need to go. For us to get to the vision we have for some area of life is going to require a “necessary ending.”
It is necessary for something to end in order for what we desire to come to fruition.”
The above excerpt may be found via this link, of which I advise you to read about further. It explains how pruning (or in my own words, getting lost in the right direction) could be the best thing that could happen in your life:
http://mariashriver.com/blog/2013/11/pruning-lifes-necessary-endings-henry-cloud/
I hope that this springtime, you will understand and take to heart the importance of pruning certain aspects of your life, so that you can make way for newer, better beginnings, towards a life that you have always wanted to live.